Episode #38: Is Yelling and Screaming at Athletes the Best Way to Coach or Parent?

What You’ll Hear in Today’s 15-Minute Huddle:

Does yelling at athletes prepare them well for the world after sports? Does it really “toughen them up”?

Is this the best way to coach/parent?

In today’s huddle, I bring back J.P. Nerbun, a mentor, writer, coach, and sports consultant who is, most importantly, I am a husband and father.

We talk about what happens when we lead with love, both as a coach and parent, and some practical ways we can change the default response from yelling and screaming to setting high standards and leading with love.

JP and I discuss…

  • Who he is, what he does and why he does it.
  • Are we asking the right questions about how we coach and parent? And what are those questions we should be asking ourselves?
  • How our brains work and how we can help our kids/athletes to use their WHOLE brain.
  • Why we want to “engage not enrage their brain” and how to activate connections that strengthen their whole brain.
  • How to connect first with your athlete/child and let them know you see them and understand before telling them what you think they should do.
  • Why a parent or coach has to start with their own heart first and ask themselves “Do I see this child as a problem or a person?”
  • How can we shift from “How do they serve me?” to “How can I serve them?”

BIO:

I’m J.P. Nerbun, a mentor, writer, coach, and sports consultant. Most importantly, I am a husband and father. Although I was a multisport athlete, basketball was always my first love. I followed my passion to the University of South Carolina, where I won an NIT Championship in Madison Square Garden in 2006. After playing in college, I moved to Ireland, where I got my teaching degree in physical education and sports science at the University of Limerick, one of the top universities in Europe for sports education.

I’ve coached for over 12 years in Ireland, Lithuania, Tennessee, and Pennsylvania. During my time in Ireland, I coached over 30 teams in five years. In a nutshell, I’ve coached a lot of basketball!

By being thrown into the head coaching positions at nearly every level imaginable (including professional, collegiate, and high school), I gained an incredible level of experience—the best of which being my many experiences with failure! Having worked with men and women at various levels, with diverse backgrounds, and across all sports, I understand how to apply the principles, systems, and strategies to build a transformational culture.

Links & References:

Follow these links to find JP’s resources or ask him a question:

https://thriveonchallenge.com/


Podcasts: https://thriveonchallenge.com/podcasts/


Book: https://thriveonchallenge.com/books/

CONTINUE THE HUDDLE

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