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Play Like You Don’t Give A…

Someone once told me that if I really want to be successful I should play/live/write/speak/coach like I don’t care.   *I don’t care about winning. *I don’t care about what people think. *I don’t care about my ego.   It’s good advice.  It’s also really hard to do.   But I’ve found, for myself at least, that just trying this attitude on is when I find my best self.   It’s pretty hard to do ALL the time. But when I let go of thinking ‘what will they think, or what will I lose, or what am I risking’ and just TRUST, the end result is better. It’s definitely scarier but also more fulfilling. Like, writing this blog for example.   I COULD worry about saying f***.   I COULD worry…

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Should You Join the Sports Moms Movement?

There are days I don’t even want to get on social media.   You with me?   Division, discouragement and despair can run rampant in cyberspace.   But when I jump on social media and check-in with my #sportsmoms in the Sports Moms United facebook community,  I connect with the most amazing, determined and supportive women who share common ground with me…our kids play sports.   Some of our kids play for fun.   Some of our kids play to get an education.   Some of our kids are gifted.   Some of our kids are not.   But it doesn’t’ matter. What matters is we have a community of women supporting, inspiring, and sharing experiences and resources with each other with the intention of raising our athletes to be…

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3 Ways to Let Go and Let Your Kids Fight For Themselves

It’s a parental instinct to keep your kids from harm and hurt and it’s a good thing for parents to do–for a while.   As your children grow, you give them more responsibilities and privileges. They learn to drive, do their own laundry, keep up with their homework. You proudly watch them grow up, and even though you may feel like you are “letting go,” there is still that last apron string that you just can’t seem to cut.   In an effort to continue protecting, we do not let them fight their own battles.   Hang around a gymnasium, soccer field, football field, baseball or softball diamond and you will parents who struggle with this. Whether it’s a fight for playing time, a conflict with a coach, or dealing…

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5 Can’t Miss Tips for Sports Moms

Recently, I asked a group of almost two thousand sports moms this question…   “What is the best advice you can give to another sports mom?”   Sports mama, Joy Ballard, shares the wisdom she gained while cheering on her sons in competitive sports:   Find a team to develop your son, not one that just wins. A good coach with good kids where your athlete gets to play (no matter what position he plays) because reps in games matter.     All those trophies end up in a box in your closet when they move out. They truly mean nothing to a college guy or an adult. Our oldest son played tennis and when he moved out he didn’t take them.     If your kid isn’t having fun move…

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17 Lessons From Sports Moms Every Sports Parent Should Read

Every sports parent should read their answers because these sports mamas get it right.   What is one thing you have learned as a sports mom that you are grateful to have learned?   How to bite. my tongue. – Chelsea Colburn     Saying “I love to watch you play” really does have a magical effect. -Chris Hyde Clark     To focus on praising the effort and not the outcome – effort they can control but outcome they can’t. – Kim Davis Edwards   Allow your son or daughter to deal with talking to their coach. Always let them deal with the issue and only step in as a last resort. Especially in their high school years and if lucky their college years. -Rita Kukura     Never be Negative. -Pat…

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The Best Advice for Young Athletes from a College Athlete

Today the Baker softball girls had our first 6:30 am conditioning (boot camp).   Not going to lie, I felt more out of shape than I normally do and that inspired me to share some thoughts and tips for other athletes (even young) and myself. These also apply to other areas of life.   It’s OK to Not Always Feel Your Best. We all experience “off” days and that’s ok as long as you don’t give up.  Giving up is cheating yourself and your team.     Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself. This is the toughest for me, but it’s something I’m working on every day.  It’s a PROCESS and not always about finishing first right away.     If it’s easy, you’re not working hard enough and it’s…

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Drop that Pop-Tart: Better Breakfast Ideas for Your Student-Athlete

It is hard to believe school is starting! It seems like the summer has flown by and it was just the 4th of July!  Over the last couple of weeks, I have had the privilege of working with many athletes, both individuals and whole teams. Kids and coaches that are interested in learning how to best fuel their bodies for peak performance both in the classroom and on the fields.     One of the most common questions that I get from the kids is what to eat in the morning when time is short.  Those of us with teens know the drill.  Getting them up and out the door can be a feat in itself, getting food into them can be a bonus.     To help with this…

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What if Your Athlete Always Sees the Glass Half Empty?

Let’s start small, your kid is on a losing team. If your kids are anything like mine, that’s difficult because they’re competitive and want to win. Here’s how we handle this situation (and by we, I really mean Todd, because he’s awesome at this!).   When your kid feels stuck on a losing team, lots of things can go the wrong way. Negativity seeps into your happy-go-lucky child. A child who once brushed off a loss begins to get angry with each subsequent loss.   It is our job as parents to rein that in.   We teach our kids it’s ok to be angry after a loss. But, we also talk to them about appropriate behavior. We tell our kids to be mad, take a few breaths and be…

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What If Your Athlete Just Wants to Love the Game Not Train?

I asked him why and if he really wanted to play hockey. His response was ” I want to play hockey with daddy but not where you have to shoot the puck at those guys.” So I responded, “you just like skating around with daddy and your brothers?”   Parker said yes, and that was that.   As a hockey family, my husband and I just assumed the boys would all play hockey because they all enjoy the sport. I had to take a step back and remember how different my kids are. I think sometimes as parents we push ideas on our kids that we want them to enjoy, things they should do.   My Parker just wanted to love the game and not train for it.   Read…

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Don’t Mess This Up: Your Role as a Sports Parent

For any athlete to become a champion, which means going as far as possible in their sport, it takes a total team effort behind them. Without the appropriate support and guidance of coaches and parents, real success in sports is virtually impossible!   The key here is that each member of the ATHLETE-PARENT-COACH team “play” the right role, and play it to the very best of their abilities!   Read Dr. Goldberg’s article here at What Your Child Need Most…    

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